Does It Feel Like You Want To Explode???
When It’s Easy to Shut Down & Push Him Away… You Don’t Have To… You Can Stay Open & Draw Him Closer… Without Hiding ANY Of Your Feelings
Your chest is tight. Your stomach churns. The words you want to say are right there, but they feel too sharp, too heavy, too much. You want to scream, cry, or shake him…
Or maybe you just want to walk away. Is that what you really want? Distance? If so… great but if not… if what you really want is to feel seen and heard and loved and cared for… let’s try feeling our way through this in his presence unapologetically.
It’s so easy to stay in your head, isn’t it?
To analyze. To replay the situation over and over.
To focus on what went wrong, what hurt, what’s unfair.
… let’s try something different this time.
Take a moment with me…
Close your eyes.
Take a deep breath.
Relax your shoulders.
Feel your feet on the ground.
Now ask yourself:
What am I really feeling?
Is it anger? Sadness? Fear? All of it swirling together?
What’s underneath those feelings?
Now imagine he asks… “What’s wrong?”
You could shut down.
You could say, “Nothing.”
Or you could explode, pointing out every little thing that’s been building up.
But instead, try this:
“I feel so scared right now.”
Or:
“I feel so sad. I’m trying to make sense of it, but it’s hard to share when I’m feeling so upset.”
Do you feel the shift?
You’re not hiding.
You’re not lashing out.
You’re staying open—even when it feels vulnerable.
What happens next?
Does your man lean in? Does he ask questions? Does he sit with you in the discomfort?
Staying open doesn’t mean ignoring what’s hard.
It doesn’t mean silencing your feelings.
It means expressing them in a way that draws him in rather than pushing him away.
When you stay present, when you share what’s in your heart instead of what’s spinning in your head, you are open to feeling seen, heard, and feeling closer instead of further apart.
Have you tried staying open in the face of despair, frustration, and fear?
I’d love to hear your story.
Please tell me how this has worked for you and if it hasn’t, if you feel like you may need a little help to transform this into a scenario that feels good and easy for you, bringing in all of the love you want in a completely authentic way… you are welcome to book a free call to see if coaching may help.
If you want to transform angry, hurt, despairing feelings into an opportunity to feel closer and draw him in, rather than pushing him further away or you are trying to find your way out of this situation to draw in something new that feels good and easy... book a free call.
To do so, click the “book a call” link below or the book a call button at the top of the page and you can get straight to me 1:1 to see if coaching might help you.
Love,
Nora Rose
Are You Getting the Commitment You Want?
Your heart is full, your dreams are big—but you feel stuck. You feel so deeply involved, yet here you are, wondering: “Will he ever truly commit?”
It’s easy to retreat into your head when the emotional waters feel murky.
You analyze, think, replay every conversation, every moment… and somehow, that only leaves you feeling more disconnected.
Let’s pause for a moment.
Close your eyes.
Take a deep breath in.
Let your shoulders relax.
Let your heart lead.
Now, ask yourself:
What do I really want?
What is MY VIsion For My Future?
If he were not the one, what would I want for me…
Not the little disappointments of today.
Not the text he didn’t send, the plans he canceled, or the things he forgot.
I long for the good feelings… of being a wife… feeling part of a family… driving the kids to their soccer games… whatever that is for you… know it in your body… feel it… let it feel good… untethered from this man in particular… see how that feels… good… different… scary?
Do you want to feel cherished?
Do you want a life partner who shows up for you emotionally and physically?
Do you want someone who is as all in as you are?
Now imagine you’re sitting with him tonight.
He asks you:
“How are you feeling?”
You could just lean forward grab him by the shirt and say “why haven’t you married me yet? “
What the heck is wrong with you?
We have been together for 10 years… shit or get off the pot…”
Imagine that… lean forward… grab him by the collar and say all of that and more… maybe even drop a few F bombs while you’re at it… let him know how hurt you are… how angry… and how it is all his fault… and all of the things he can do to fix it, change it, and make it better…
What is he doing now?
Running for the door or something like it?
Is that what you want him to do… truly… really… deep down in your heart?
Now try this…
“I’m feeling sad ….and angry… pining… longing… clinging…cling… cling… cling…
“I don’t want to feel that way…it feels so good being with you.
I have realized that I don’t want to be a girlfriend… it doesn’t feel good to feel locked in with a man …even a man who I LOVE being with as much as I love being with you!
I don’t want to be exclusive.
It would feel so good to start opening up and exploring my options…
… it would feel so good to keep dating as well and see how that feels… I feel so confident in you that you’ll know what you need and good things will come.
What do you think?”
What is he doing now?
Notice the difference?
Is this different? Is his mouth on the floor? Is he coming toward you? When you stay emotionally open and grounded — fully owning and inhabiting your own space, filling it up with your own feelings unapologetically WITHOUT making it all about him… without leaning forward, you invite him to lean in if he ever would… and you have now genuinely opened yourself up to the love you want and need and crave and long for and deserve… coming to you from the universe with our without him joining in… He may or he may not… He is certainly more likely to do so than he was when you were silently pining or angry or stuffing your own feelings wants or needs. when you were insisting, demanding, that it be him who meets them.
Now he finally has the space…
To hear you.
To see you.
This isn’t about ignoring your OWN needs or leaving him or abandoning him or giving up —far from it.
You are finally expressing your feelings from a place of hope and connection and openness to your options… letting him off the hook… as scary as it may feel and as sad as it may feel now to give him the space to choose4… fully inhabiting the larger world within you and around you - knowing that you CAN have it all…
It may or may not be with him… if it is to be with him… I can GUARANTEE you 100% that this is your BEST shot at it … the world is now feeling open like your own oyster… this feels GOOD to him… the pressure is finally off whether the pressue was spoken or bubbling underneath, he was feeling it you can be sure…
you are now a woman who knows what she wants and is willing to share it… feel it… open up to it… and make it her own dream rather than making it a requirement of HIS…
Finally, you are a fern who requires that she be watered… you are making it a requirement of YOURS! You require it… He respects that.
He may not say so in words… he may not say wow this feels good… he may feel scared or have a bit of a tantrum… but he WILL NOT LEAVE OVER THIS… I am sure of it. There are thousands of good men out there who want to know you who have not had the chance and if this man is you guy, he knows that and he will remember as well as soon as you do. And if he was ever going to move forward, he will find his way forward. And either way, you will for sure.
Staying present and vulnerable is hard. Opening your options can feel scary… You may fear losing him… I can reassure you in all of my time dating AND coaching I have never seen this scary thing happen -- not even once! I have seen my clients open their options up, feel pursued by many men and choose a man other than the one they came to me pining for…but I have never seen a man disappear when the woman he loves opens her options to love and begins to require of the world than a man be a part of her vision rather than trying to stuff her vision to make something “work”.
If your current man was ever going to do more, this is his catalyst for moving forward or it is yours for attracting the love you long for or both. I have never seen it go any other way.
The only time a man does drift off is if you were doing all the pursuing and he was never doing it to begin with.
The man for you will LOVE you and PURSUE you and NEVER GIVE UP. This man may be stuck or you may be pushing him away with pursuit or he may not be your guy. The way to know is also the way to attract love… It is the same solution for all scenarios…
I promise you. This will work to turn your love life around…
Please give this a try and let me know how it goes.
The next time you feel yourself retreating into your head, stop. Breathe. Focus on your own vision for the love that you want in your life and how that feels in your body. Not who will provide it… Separate the vision from this particular man.
Then ask:
“How can I communicate in my own space fully without leaning forward, pursuing, pushing love away? How can I share from my heart who I am.. what I long for… without him in mind… just sharing my loving heart and my dream in his presence? If I can do this and he wants to be a part of it, amazing… if he doesn’t… amazing as well… All the love I long for is on its way to me.
I remember having this conversation with my daughter’s father who had said he never wanted to be divorced again –and his solution was to never marry again! He had been divorced once already. When he thought of marriage, he immediately thought of the pain of divorce and all of the suffering that came with it in his life…
I had discovered these tools. I was a fern who now required water as well.
I was no longer people pleasing… being “understanding” of his “reasons”…
Instead, I was able to share MY OWN vision… I was not feeling the same way… I had not experienced divorce…
I was able to share how good it felt in my body to envision feeling like a wife as part of family.
I shared that I did not want to go through the rest of my life never knowing how that feels.
I shared that I felt open to love and that I did not want to feel exclusive in a relationship where I may or may not have the chance to feel like part of a family.
He proposed shortly thereafter after vowing never to have that heartbreak again…
My vision was about me and my hopes and dreams for the future… MY future… he was free to join in and share in that vision… and pursue that vision with me or not… I knew that it was a vision that I was not going to sacrifice… And the right man for me would easily want to share in this vision with me as well. He would find it beautiful and enticing as I did.
What has this journey looked like for you?
Have you been able to stay open and share your feelings when it feels easier to shut down or it feels easier to go along to get along?
Have you found yourself stuffing your true feelings settling for less than you long for, hoping that he’ll come around if you’re patient enough?
If so, you can turn this around quickly… none of those will work. But you can have it all!
If you want to make this love turnaround happen quickly, you can book a free call to see if coaching is for you.
Here’s to getting the love and commitment long for, want, crave, and deserve…
You CAN do it!
If I have been able to turn it around to feel pursued after years of chasing and pining, anyone can.
I have seen so many of my clients do so. You can have that too!
If you need a little help to transform this into a scenario that feels good and easy for you, bringing in all of the love you want in a completely authentic way… you are welcome to book a free call to see if coaching may help. If this resonates…click the “book a call” link below or the button at the top of the page to get straight to me.
Love,
Nora Rose
At the end of my rope… He won’t take out the trash!
Your house is filled with trash. Bins are bubbling over. The smell is wafting into your nostrils every few moments no matter what room you’re in! You finally decided not to take it out yourself.
That is great! You’re ready to allow the chips to fall where they may..
Let’s try something… A meditation…. Close your eyes… Take a deep breath… Relax your shoulders… Allow your pelvis to drop… Imagine….
Your man says: “How was your day?”
… you say…
“I’m feeling nauseated. I’m feeling so angry…”
He asks: “Why?”
Ready for the change?
You don’t argue with him.
You don’t tell him that he’s a jerk.
You don’t tell him that he hasn’t taken it out for days and you can’t stand him.
You say this…
“diverse rotting food scents have built up for days… so many scents - aroma in every room…. every time I take a breath in… it is hard to forget how sad I’ve been feeling.”
What is he doing now?
Have you already gotten his attention with your poetic style?
If you don’t have his attention, and he continues to ask…
“Well, why don’t you take out the trash then?”
Now You say…
“I don’t know. I just can’t do it anymore”
… turn around and walk away…
What is he doing now?
If this feels like a problem that you know all too well and would LOVE to transform into something that feels GOOD and EASY… you can have that… and I can help.
If you want love now… click the “book a call” link below or the book a call button at the top of the page and you can get straight to me 1:1 to see if coaching might help you.
Silence Is Golden - Is There A Difference Between Choosing Silence & Being Silenced?
What do I mean by silence? Do I mean keeping your mouth shut? Saying nothing?
Try This… Close Your Eyes… Relax Your Shoulders… Take A Deep Breath In…. Take A Deep Breath Out… Imagine Your Pelvis Opening And Widening….
Now… Place Yourself In The Boardroom… On the zoom call… Or in front of your man… Select One Of These Before You Move on…
Someone speaks…
Now imagine the ‘pregnant pause’…. How do you feel? Do you feel anxious? Do you feel relieved? Feel it…
Now enter into your own poetic artistry…
The pregnant pause is a vast universe, infinite, and immense - a world of mystery that we can enter into, enjoy, and fill with our uniquely feminine presence and power.
You can envision yourself in ANY moment when somebody has just finished a sentence and another has yet to begin…
Breathe. Feel. Enjoy. indulge.
If you’re like me…if you have trauma in your past… you may be feeling every pause as anxious energy inside you.
Something that you may feel compelled to eradicate, crush, and fill with words.
Now…Ponder the unconsciousness of a never ending… blah blah blah life where all silences are filled with unconscious energy and words without feeling.
Or all words are filled with anxiety and the sense of rushing to the next moment and the next.
Now drop your shoulders again… breathe in and breathe out deeply.
Rather than escape into the noise, you can dive into the silence. And allow it to envelop you.
If you have experienced complex PTSD, whether it is childhood trauma, a traumatic relationship, trauma in your current relationship or all of the above… Or… Just the trauma of being alive in this imperfect world, maybe you feel a need to fill every crevice with noise, a compulsion that you’ve not paused to question.
What a beautiful opportunity to heal your brain — neural pathways. Simply breahe.
Try dropping into the next pause that you encounter; rather than to squash it, what if you let it grow and expand… emerging from within, filling the space within you, and around you…imagine what changes may be accessible in your body, the atmosphere, and the moment…. Shift your relationships … or minute interactions by simply diving deep, head-first, eyes and arms open, into the vast expanse of the silence.
I was uncomfortable. I felt anxious — when I allowed a moment to pass, I was able to enjoy the satisfaction of perseverance. To be able to feel my anxiety without running, was invigorating and freeing; once I could do it that first time, I could do it again and again and again.
I almost forgot that my man was standing there.
Maybe he was talking; maybe he’s stopped and has gotten curious about me.
Maybe he wants to know what’s going on over here in my world. Most definitely… he does…
By entering into my moment , filling it fully with my own presence, I have become an invitation for him to do likewise, to settle in and awaken to my presence… Not only mine, but also more deeply to his own.
If you’re not with a man in an intimate relationship, see if you can’t try this in the grocery store or on the street or at work.
And in this kind of silence, you will notice - even the first time… the atmosphere shifts… people come to you… they ask your opinion. They trust you. They feel confidence in you….curiosity.
You have filled the room with your feminine power in a way that draws people in. This is an amazing gift, not only to you, but to the world.
Give it a try. Let me know how this goes.
… if you want to turn your personal situation around most quickly, click the “book a call” link below or the “book a call” button above and we can chat 1:1.!
2024 Post Presidential Election - Can Our Emotional Awareness Transcend Partisan Politics & Build Bridges?
Hello ladies!
If you were looking for a partisan statement on the election results, you have come to the wrong place. And I say this with the utmost love!
What I would love to do is use this opportunity of national hustle and bustle and excitement and fear and anxiety and joy and celebration and disappointment and delightfulness to enter into the collective ocean of emotions with you.
In other words, what an opportunity to practice being in love with our feelings - all of them… a nail biting hair raising event such as one of the more contested and controversial and emotionally charged presidential elections.
On one side of the aisle, we have some people afraid that the country is destined for ruin. And, on the other side of the aisle, we have people celebrating feeling joy and sighing with feelings of relief, imagining that this outcome has saved us from sheer disaster and the end of democracy as we know it.
Whichever side of the aisle you are on, or if you are in the middle, or straddling both in different ways or you have mixed feelings that are strong in different areas… what an immensely amazing opportunity to get in touch with your feelings today…
As you hear people share their own exuberance and enthusiasm for the outcome, if you feeling differently, how does that make you feel?
Do you feel afraid to share how you truly feel, angry, sad, disappointed….
Where are these feelings in your body?
Do you feel tight?
Self-righteous indignation…
Do you feel strong and powerful… determined… or do you feel rigid… are there any other feelings inside you that well up as you hear the celebratory cheers?
Do you feel RAGE? Can you fall in love with your rage? Imagine yourself in a red dress with your hair flowing as you roar like a lioness… Feminine and beautiful.
On the other hand, are you feeling excited, relieved, hopeful — excited for what’s to come next….imagining a great future for our country, changes for the better… how does that hope and excitement feel in your body? Can you track it?
Can you feel the enthusiasm radiating out of every pore and outward through your fingertips?
Do you feel lighter in that joy and excitement and hope and exuberance?
And, if that is you… how do you feel when you hear the grief or even rage in others… how do YOU feel in YOUR body hearing their fear, anxiety, disappointment?
Is your joy and lightness feeling heavier now? Do you feel sad? Do you feel disappointed or angry now? Where are those feelings in YOUR body?
Or are you trying to avoid the whole darned thing because of all of the emotions involved?
Do you need a break… time to process? Are you caring for yourself or parts of yourself by taking your time… turning off the news… or saving it for later?
There are so many opportunities every day, including and especially, 11/6 on election year, for us to drop into our OWN bodies and immerse ourselves in our OWN feelings to get comfortable with ALL OF THEM.
Are there any good loving nourishing feelings in the depths of all of it that are accessible to you?
Can you imagine now that you are bathing in a sea of love? Can you try to this today with this or any other trigger and watch your atmosphere and inner landscape begin to transform one moment at a time.
It’s never too late to love and to use your OWN feelings in ANY moment and circumstance as an opportunity to heal.
… if you want to learn more about how to transform a personal situation, click the “book a call” link below or the “book a call” button above and we can chat 1:1.!
Love, Nora Rose