Silence Is Golden - Is There A Difference Between Choosing Silence & Being Silenced?

What do I mean by silence?  Do I mean keeping your mouth shut? Saying nothing? 

Try This… Close Your Eyes… Relax Your Shoulders… Take A Deep Breath In…. Take A Deep Breath Out… Imagine Your Pelvis Opening And Widening….

Now… Place Yourself In The Boardroom… On the zoom call… Or in front of your man… Select One Of These Before You Move on…

Someone speaks…

Now imagine the ‘pregnant pause’…. How do you feel? Do you feel anxious? Do you feel relieved? Feel it…

Now enter into your own poetic artistry…

The pregnant pause is a vast universe, infinite, and immense - a world of mystery that we can enter into, enjoy, and fill with our uniquely feminine presence and power.

You can envision yourself in ANY moment when somebody has just finished a sentence and another has yet to begin…

Breathe. Feel. Enjoy. indulge. 

If you’re like me…if you have trauma in your past… you may be feeling every pause as anxious energy inside you.

Something that you may feel compelled to eradicate, crush, and fill with words.

Now…Ponder the unconsciousness of a never ending… blah blah blah life where all silences are filled with unconscious energy and words without feeling.

Or all words are filled with anxiety and the sense of rushing to the next moment and the next.

Now drop your shoulders again… breathe in and breathe out deeply.

Rather than escape into the noise, you can dive into the silence. And allow it to envelop you.

If you have experienced complex PTSD, whether it is childhood trauma, a traumatic relationship, trauma in your current relationship or all of the above… Or… Just the trauma of being alive in this imperfect world, maybe you feel a need to fill every crevice with noise, a compulsion that you’ve not paused to question.

What a beautiful opportunity to heal your brain — neural pathways. Simply breahe.

Try dropping into the next pause that you encounter; rather than to squash it, what if you let it grow and expand… emerging from within, filling the space within you, and around you…imagine what changes may be accessible in your body, the atmosphere, and the moment…. Shift your relationships … or minute interactions  by simply diving deep, head-first, eyes and arms open, into the vast expanse of the silence.

I was uncomfortable. I felt anxious — when I allowed a moment to pass, I was able to enjoy the satisfaction of perseverance. To be able to feel my anxiety without running, was invigorating and freeing; once I could do it that first time, I could do it again and again and again.

I almost forgot that my man was standing there.

Maybe he was talking; maybe he’s stopped and has gotten curious about me.

Maybe he wants to know what’s going on over here in my world. Most definitely… he does… 

By entering into my moment , filling it fully with my own presence, I have become an invitation for him to do likewise, to settle in and awaken to my presence… Not only mine, but also more deeply to his own.

If you’re not with a man in an intimate relationship, see if you can’t try this in the grocery store or on the street or at work.

And in this kind of silence, you will notice - even the first time… the atmosphere shifts… people come to you… they ask your opinion. They trust you. They feel confidence in you….curiosity.

You have filled the room with your feminine power in a way that draws people in. This is an amazing gift, not only to you, but to the world.

Give it a try. Let me know how this goes.

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