Does It Feel Like You Want To Explode???

When It’s Easy to Shut Down & Push Him Away… You Don’t Have To… You Can Stay Open & Draw Him Closer… Without Hiding ANY Of Your Feelings

Your chest is tight. Your stomach churns. The words you want to say are right there, but they feel too sharp, too heavy, too much. You want to scream, cry, or shake him…

Or maybe you just want to walk away. Is that what you really want? Distance? If so… great but if not… if what you really want is to feel seen and heard and loved and cared for… let’s try feeling our way through this in his presence unapologetically.

It’s so easy to stay in your head, isn’t it?
To analyze. To replay the situation over and over.
To focus on what went wrong, what hurt, what’s unfair.

… let’s try something different this time.

Take a moment with me…
Close your eyes.
Take a deep breath.
Relax your shoulders.
Feel your feet on the ground.

Now ask yourself:
What am I really feeling?
Is it anger? Sadness? Fear? All of it swirling together?
What’s underneath those feelings?

Now imagine he asks… “What’s wrong?”

You could shut down.

You could say, “Nothing.”

Or you could explode, pointing out every little thing that’s been building up.

But instead, try this:

“I feel so scared right now.”

Or:

“I feel so sad. I’m trying to make sense of it, but it’s hard to share when I’m feeling so upset.”

Do you feel the shift?

You’re not hiding.
You’re not lashing out.
You’re staying open—even when it feels vulnerable.

What happens next?

Does your man lean in? Does he ask questions? Does he sit with you in the discomfort?

Staying open doesn’t mean ignoring what’s hard.

It doesn’t mean silencing your feelings.

It means expressing them in a way that draws him in rather than pushing him away.

When you stay present, when you share what’s in your heart instead of what’s spinning in your head, you are open to feeling seen, heard, and feeling closer instead of further apart.

Have you tried staying open in the face of despair, frustration, and fear?

I’d love to hear your story.

Please tell me how this has worked for you and if it hasn’t, if you feel like you may need a little help to transform this into a scenario that feels good and easy for you, bringing in all of the love you want in a completely authentic way… you are welcome to book a free call to see if coaching may help.

If you want to transform angry, hurt, despairing feelings into an opportunity to feel closer and draw him in, rather than pushing him further away or you are trying to find your way out of this situation to draw in something new that feels good and easy... book a free call.

To do so, click the “book a call” link below or the book a call button at the top of the page and you can get straight to me 1:1 to see if coaching might help you.

Love,

Nora Rose